Comments on: Motherhood: How Can We Be Wrong When We Don’t Know What’s Right?

By: Jo - Mother of Teenagers

Jo - Mother of Teenagers — Sat, 02 Nov 2019 20:01:44 +0000

Hi Suzanne, it’s been a while since I have dropped by. As you know I have taken a step back to re-evaluate many things and motherhood is definitely there at the top of the list, because as you say it’s what we do 24/7 however old they are. Parenting/mothering it’s a daily challenge and it just doesn’t stop. We can only do what we think is right and yes we will get it wrong sometimes and when we do we tend to just beat ourselves up. But over the past couple of months I have realised that the bits of mothering that maybe made things wrong can also make them right if that makes any sense – like over mothering, over worrying and goodness we all have a degree in that for sure. Dear friends always have the wise words don’t they and those passed onto me are “look foward, not back, outwards not inwards.” You/we do what we can and what feels right and who can do anymore? Much love x

By: Suzanne W

Suzanne W — Tue, 08 Oct 2019 17:39:40 +0000

I’m glad you found it helpful. Hope you’re okay. xx

By: Suzanne W

Suzanne W — Tue, 08 Oct 2019 17:39:19 +0000

I think our situation has made me hyper vigilant too, Chloe. It doesn’t make for peaceful parenting! But as you say, we really are all doing our best. xx

By: Chloe: Picture Taker Memory Maker

Chloe: Picture Taker Memory Maker — Sun, 06 Oct 2019 05:32:09 +0000

Parenting is the hardest thing in the world. I constantly question myself. As a therapist, I see firsthand how one little comment, action or tone of voice can be misinterpreted and have knock-on effects and it’s made me super-aware of everything I say and do. Probably not healthy really. I have to really work to remind myself that we’re all doing the best we can with what we’ve got (the kids included) and that it really will all be ok in the end. All they need is infinite amounts of unconditional love – as long as they get that then the rest of the stuff that happens is inconsequential.

By: Oftencalledcathy

Oftencalledcathy — Thu, 03 Oct 2019 15:55:08 +0000

That’s something I really needed to hear, thank you!

By: Jenny Taylor

Jenny Taylor — Thu, 03 Oct 2019 09:12:03 +0000

So agree Suz I am constantly trying to know what’s right and wrong and if I am messing up my kids or doing this motherhood thing wrong and worrying about how they will turn out. it’s so scary. Who does declare right and wrong great point. Every child is different too so we might be right by one child and the next it might not be what they need. My two eldest ones couldn’t be farther from each other in that perspective.

By: Kerri-Ann Hargreaves

Kerri-Ann Hargreaves — Tue, 01 Oct 2019 19:28:38 +0000

I think we have to trust our gut, our own instincts and remember that we’re doing the best. I think we’ve all been guilty of judging others, but remembering that each to their own and not to pass judgement or put our opinions on others. I hope everyone is well

By: Gail

Gail — Tue, 01 Oct 2019 11:56:40 +0000

So true, Suzanne, and something I have been thinking about a bit myself lately. We all do things, with the best of intentions, which at the time we think are right. Sometimes looking back with hindsight I wish I had done certain things differently – with regards to both parenting and lots of other things in life. It’s too easy to beat ourselves up, though, isn’t it? We have to give ourselves a break sometimes and work from the place in which we find ourselves right now. x

By: I Joyce

I Joyce — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 21:14:27 +0000

When my children were growing up I used to think I was doing it all wrong or just not a good mother. Like you someone made a comment that resonated with me and just changed my mindset.
She said.. you are the perfect mother for your children because gave them to you and God does not make a mistake.

By: Sarah MumofThree World

Sarah MumofThree World — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 10:21:33 +0000

Very wise words indeed! We can only do what we think is right at that moment – and what is right for your family might not be right for my family. And indeed what may be right for one of our own children may not be right for the others. x